I need to address something before I go any further with Ragnar.
I'm ready to mothball this blogsite. The last comment I received was from 'anonymous', who very, very clearly missed the entire point of my last posting altogether. My intent was to focus on suicide victims and see what can be learned from their plight, so as they may not have died in vain. I thought it was clear. Crystal clear actually.
But if the things of a serious nature that I write about are going to be taken out of context so frequently, I'm ready to scrap this place. Especially if comments of an 'anonymous' nature come rolling in. It's just not worth it to me. I invite 'anonymous' to e-mail me privately if necessary and open up some dialogue about this comment. But since I'm at a disadvantage, allow me to offer my own observations.
"Life is tough at times..." yeah, no joke. People go through spurts where it downright sucks. And then some of them go to extremes and don't even want to live anymore. That's why I wrote this. "actually it is tough a lot of the time but it can be pleasant based on the way we handle situations and people." Why do I feel like I was being talked down on here? I'm 46 friggin' years old and I've seen my share. 'Anonymous' better not be a squeaky eared, cheese eating high school student. "I think it is important that when we speak of important people in our lives that we only speak of the good times and not the bad especially if they are deceased." This is the part that riled me the most. When someone commits suicide, it isn't because of the good times. Therefore we need to discuss what went wrong to try to prevent others from doing the same thing. Again, for the love of God, that was the point of the blog. And I didn't mention names to protect those who might not want mentioning, understandably. But my dad... well, he was My Dad. I know Dad does know how I feel, because I believe in the afterlife. And I don't believe he would have objections to my trying to bring redemption to him by attempting to help others based on what he went through. I love my Mom and Dad. So my perception here is that I disrespected his memory by discussing this. And that deeply offends me. "Stay positive, live positive and talk positive and respect everyone at all times will make life for all of us a WONDERFUL place to live." Again... I know this is redundant... being 'positive' wasn't as easy as it is said for those I talked about. Again, (sigh... I hate sounding so repetitive) we should be looking around us at those who have a hard time "staying positive". Not all of us are cut from the same cloth and have the same gifts as others, in the way of something as complex as chemical balance/imbalances in our brains, and we all have our own life experience. I know I certainly have an easier time being positive when I have my wife and daughter with me, and I'm one of those 'defective' individuals who struggle with 'being positive' sometimes. It's just not as easy as turning on a switch in our heads and putting on a happy face. Indeed, to tell all of us to 'be positive' is to show ignorance. Walk a mile in another man's shoes if you want to know where he comes from.
Anyway, I don't want to discourage comments either. But I do encourage authors to be relevant.
I might desert this site and just write my blogs on my facebook page like I was doing for a short while. That way there can be no 'anonymous'. If I do that, my facebook page will go to private once again.
I'm sorry to any readers of this site that have been faithful to it. We'll see where it goes.
Thanks for reading.